Relax – You’re Not Failing!
How many times have you heard people say something great about your kids, but you can’t seem to get them to not fight at home to save your life?
If you’re like many busy dads, you’ve likely had this happen to me quite a few times. In our house, the boys are home with me during the summer months and they antagonize each other as though it’s some sort of sport. Quite frankly, it can be maddening at times. I know they love each other, but at home it sometimes seems like they are at war.
Let’s extend that to behavior at home regarding chores…or just taking basic care of themselves. My wife and I feel like sometimes we are fighting a losing battle! Clothes somehow don’t make it to the hamper…water bottles mysteriously multiply themselves with no owner to be found…dishes mysteriously end up dirty and sometimes left where they last were eaten from…the list goes on.
I honestly was thinking that we were somehow failing. When our kids are with other people, we are told that they are the perfect gentleman and that they are very mature.
Was I failing since I didn’t see this at home? Eric Thomas teaches us something on this here:
Dads, we are not failing. If we compare our kids as they are at home with how they act with others, it’s not a fair comparison for them or for the job that we are doing as their father.
Truly the greatest compliment we can get is to hear about how our kids are acting mature and kind whilst in the company of others. It really should warm our hearts to know how they act when we aren’t there to see them.
We had an emergency at home when my wife and I were on vacation and I got to hear from everyone involved that our boys were cool, calm, and collected. They took control of the situation, called 9-1-1, and made sure that everything was taken care of. That’s quite a feat for an 11 year old and an 8 year old! To say that I was proud of them is quite the understatement.
If you are a busy dad with kids that act different in public than they are in private, give yourself a break. You are on the right track even if you don’t see the progress.
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